Twenty second ramble


I am not too sure about my stand on it. I know the correct definition, yes. I do agree that both men and women should have equal rights.

In identifying myself as a feminist, I feel like a fraud. So I subtly move out of discussions involving the subject.

If you for once, put aside the more serious issues of women being denied basic rights, I think calling myself a feminist when I myself am not ready to pitch for me as an equal in the family is hypocrisy. Only the other day I had this discussion with my friend.

To top it, I actually understand Ayn Rand’s stand against feminism ( though I do disagree with the part about no woman should be the President ). She says, it is the battle of the fittest – be it a woman or a man – they get they due only if they go for it and that nobody should demand that they be equal, they must command their own status. 

Coming back to me and feminism. I feel my views warping, when I listen to certain statements about the roles of women in the family and the necessity of them doing the major nurturing for the family to stay together and naturally, reducing their work commitments voluntarily to look after the family. I find myself nodding my head to these thoughts. So if I want to work full fledged, but am caving in just to adhere to these defined gender roles, am I being a true feminist?

Well, this is not an issue of global proportions, but it is of vital importance in my life – that puts me in a difficult situation where I think I would be a hypocrite if I called myself a feminist despite not standing up for what I want in my life. Or rather because I cannot make the family share the household chores regardless of gender. 

Ayn Rand or feminism? Hard choice to make. I shall choose one for me, someday.



Sometimes, we fall prey to generalising our opinion about a country’s population as a whole. Stereotypes are okay, if spoken about in a lighter vein.

But it is wrong, when an opinion about a country’s disposition is based on the statements of a handful or one-off people – good or bad.

It is impossible to hold anĀ an opinion about a country. An opinion can be given about an individual, a small group of people, an organization or the government. Not a country.

Mentality is of people, not of a country. No statistics can prove a 100% similarity of thoughts between all individuals of a country.

For example, a bridal magazine from the middle-east had invited opinions on whether girls should take the first step in proposing. My friend voted yes and explained her reasons. There was also a no take. I read it and re-read it -> the no take. I was amused. The post inadvertently objectified women, I thought. I was tempted to look at the nationality of the opinion holder. But then I checked myself. It was an individual opinion, and it should not colour (no pun intended) my opinion of her country.


It would be a considerate world if everybody held an opinion about individuals/organisations/governments with whose views/actions they do not agree; not their whole country.

If you’re sharp, you’ll notice what I have tried to say between the lines.