Taking stock : 2017

Hey ya folks! We’re into mid-2017.

I had updated my Facebook profile for a life event ‘Made peace with time.’ in mid-May, because I wasn’t freaking out about the time that has passed or is passing and things that are pending. I am glad the life event seems to be a permanent change in my temperament, because I still ain’t freaking out while I go through my resolution list made in Jan 2017.

Here we go:

Here are the resolutions :

  1. Win a medal.

    Well, I made it to the Nationals by qualifying in the Pre-Nationals held in Mumbai, this June. The margin was appreciable. I needed 352/400 to qualify. I shot a 358/400 in a pressure situation. I am now training at Level 6 in GFG, which happens to be the highest level of training that they presently offer. So yeah, winning is on cards, the season is progressing well.

  2. Earn money blogging.

    Why do I do this to me?!

  3. Code using SWIFT and also develop an end-to-end iOS app with cloud hosting and web services.

    Have not started. Am not sure.

  4. Write a tech blog.

    Same as above.

  5. Write a shooting blog.

    This is possible. Need to start.

  6. Write actively on thedamsel.in.

    I am not sure about the blog. I have been posting on Instagram, but it is very directionless.

  7. Read 100 books.

    Like last year, I have subscribed to Kindle Unlimited. I am even more disappointed with their collection. I have read a few thrillers and a few man-eater series from Kenneth Anderson and Jim Corbett. Right now, I have finished Shashi Kapoor’s Biography and am reading Shammi Kapoor’s. If you have any Kindle Unlimited recommendations, please suggest.

  8. Write short stories and creative pieces.

    A poem about my dead cat counts?

  9. Complete April A-Z Challenge and February Ramblings.


  10. Eat right, exercise and get a fit body. Participate in at least one marathon.

    Exercising. Not enough. Need to work.

Erm… I am happy I posted on the blog even if it is ‘taking stock’. Hope you’re having a good year too!

Resolutions 2017

2017 will be the year of achievements and learning.

I am quitting my side job to focus on shooting. It will also give me time to look after my blog, and learn coding again.

Here are the resolutions :

  1. Win a medal.
  2. Earn money blogging.
  3. Code using SWIFT and also develop an end-to-end iOS app with cloud hosting and web services.
  4. Write a tech blog.
  5. Write a shooting blog.
  6. Write actively on thedamsel.in.
  7. Read 100 books.
  8. Write short stories and creative pieces.
  9. Complete April A-Z Challenge and February Ramblings.
  10. Eat right, exercise and get a fit body. Participate in at least one marathon.

I am going easy on me this year, and setting fairly achievable goals.


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Most of my resolutions this year are related to writing. This is conscious, because I feel writing has taken a backseat since I left my day job in 2015. I had taken a break to write and I took up shooting instead. It has been close to 6 years that I have a blog and 4 years since I have this domain.

The initial settling in has been done. Now I need to go to the next level and start implementing SEO and monetisation. (For that I need to write too 😛 )

So here’s to the second innings of blogging!

2017 – The year of achievable goals!


Resolutions for 2016

This will be the year I turn 30!

I am happy to share that I am not as worried or stressed as I thought I would be. I am more confident than ever.

Since 2015 was the year of contentment, I proclaim 2016 as the year of preparation. Preparation for the enigmatic 30s!

So, here’s the list :

1. Pursue a sport.
2. Start coding again.
3. Write without the fear of your inner editor.
4. Learn baking.
5. Prepare a virtual travelogue.
6. Read 100 books.
7. Draw the fashion designs in your head. Learn to draw, if need be.
8. Start video blogging/podcasting.
9. Love your blog(s). Let it show.
10. Be your own mentor in all walks of life.

Have you documented your resolutions? Leave a link here.

What do you think of resolutions in general? Necessary or not necessary?

The year in review – 2015!

I have kept up the tradition of not meeting my resolutions. However, I am excited to share that 2015 has been by far the most ‘conscious’ year that I have lived.

Here’s my report on how I fared at the resolutions :

1) Write and publish a novel. Nada!
2) Exercise and get a fit athletic body. Well, a little warm up and limbering exercises don’t count.
3) Make time for the following activities : a) Tennis b) Dance c) Painting. I took up another activity instead.
4) Write a blog a day. LOL
5) Diversify the blog. Touch the hitherto unwritten topics : a) India – the history, the present and the future b) DIY c) Photography d) Technology e) Travel. I have made a fashion and lifestyle blog, have to start writing.
6) Revamp the wardrobe. Head to toe. There have been a few good additions. You cannot call it revamping though.I have had to abandon my existing wardrobe when I came to the UAE 😀
7) Cook. (not just stories…actual food!) I did, and how! My recipe is going to be published in a calendar!
8) Follow cricket. Did not happen.
9) Drive a car and ride a bike – like a pro. Go on road trips. Car, no. Bike, yes – if only for a few rounds, I did ride Hero Hunk and Thunderbird 350. Road trips, 3. I was the navigator.
10) Be happy. Maintain a happiness journal. I was happy. Journal be damned.

You’d be wondering at my upbeat voice even after this ghastly follow-up to the average resolution of 2014 resolutions. I dare say, I have managed to achieve a lot more than the 2 lists. Here goes :

1) I flew kites alongside the hubby. For the first time in my life I witnessed the spectacle of a typical Sankrant in Gujarat.
2) I wrote freelance. And found there is a lot I can achieve professionally, as a writer. I also wrote on LinkedIn.
3) I learnt the sport of Olympic Shooting for 3 months, with utmost dedication. I realised that a sport can be pursued at any age. I also learnt swimming (a bit).
4) Sitting ducks taught me the essence of life, on our road trip to Dapoli. More on that later.
5) I spent time with my grandparents. Weeks!
6) I switched country! I made my first international travel alone.
7) I covered the red carpet at the Dubai International Film Festival 2015.
8) I tinkered with technology and setup my own WordPress Multisite. I warded off a spam attack on my blog all by myself.
9) I got fringes and outgrew them. I coloured my hair burgundy. Talk about experimenting!
10) My college bestie got married this year. I enjoyed her wedding thoroughly as I was dressed to my satisfaction. As a bonus, I can now do makeup on my own.


All in all, I would see 2015 as the year of contentment.

How has your year been? Lemme know! Imma curious!

Day 24 : Write about a lesson you have learned the hard way.

There are 2 parts of the lesson I learned the hard way : 1) Never put yourself on the back-burner. Learn to do things alone. 2) Never take bullying in any form.

I was self-centered till my school days. I was sure of everything I wanted to do throughout the day and never had the FOMO syndrome (Fear-of-missing-out). My life was perfect. No exaggeration in that statement.

When I went to college, I was exposed to so many different things and people that I spent most of my time observing others. I was not sure of myself anymore. I was not sure of my routine – what I wanted to do in the evenings, what I wanted to do on weekends…

I saw people coming and going to swimming classes, dance classes, music classes; I saw people getting passports made. I saw people preparing for GATE, CAT. All I did was observe. I did have plans for myself, but I kept waiting for a perfect time to start and a buddy to start with me. I always needed a buddy to go with me somewhere – be it shopping or sightseeing. If the buddy said no, I’d sit in my hostel room. That’s why I suffered from a major FOMO – where all the others had defined lives, varied activities, travelling opportunities and I felt I did nothing, had nothing.

In 2nd year, on my birthday, I sat alone in my hostel room till 9 PM in the night ‘cos none of my buddies (college and other) were free! Then we went out for the customary dinner. I was free since noon, and I had not a single soul who I could go out with. This may not seem like a big deal now, but it was a big deal that day. I found out how dependent I had let myself become…I could have gone out by myself! Why was I cribbing at all!

In the 3rd year, we had a bully of a professor who forced us into choosing lab partners as project partners and the subjects he gave, as our projects. We (3 of us, in serial roll numbers) were given an oft made robot to make again – none of us liked the project. It happened because he was ticked off by one person from our batch and declared ‘I won’t let any of you make any project’. Ultimately some people convinced him to ‘let us do the projects’ and he laid those conditions. All I did was observe! I thought somebody would raise a voice (and then I’d join in. I had completely changed from my school days, when I’d promptly speak up for myself.) – our batch had almost all the top 5 students in the class. Nobody spoke up. Maybe they were okay with the project groups and the projects they had got. However, his decision affected our project group the most. He illegally made projects for students from other colleges. The project he gave us was much in demand. He made our group of 3 get material for 6 additional replicas of our project instead of the 1 we would have made for ourselves! To quote fairly, he gave us the money for his share of the materials. But it was enough to make me (and us) feel bullied. My Dad told me to report to the Principal or go talk to the professor. But I felt that I should better remain invisible, as I am not that good at engineering studies that I’d pass if he’d try to fail me out of anger. The semester ended with me passing with 47/50 in the project and failing 3 theory subjects! All because I waited for others to speak up and also did not concentrate on other things – ignoring this single thing which I supposedly could not fix. The next semester, the same project was up on display and I passed every subject and failed the project. Why? Because the examiner thought we’d got the project made from outside. Talk about irony. Had I had the guts to speak up against the professor at the onset, I would have failed (if I did) with integrity.

Well, these were the 2 incidences (one minor, one major) when I learned my lesson! But learning a lesson and bringing it into practice are two different things. It takes a lot of time, even years, to implement something that overrides your inner tendency.

I never took bullying after that. I tried to break the other tendency by joining a tennis class by myself, after college was over in 2008. I went for 2 whole months and then stopped because the family noticed it was too physically taxing for me.

Something inside me had snapped after 2004 (when I left home) and I always waited for others to make the plans; dropped my plans at a single point of resistance from parents/buddies. I often made my schedule according to others’. This continued to a lesser extent in my office days too.

The struggle of doing things for self and to avoid being overwhelmed by others’ activities/schedules continues even now. This year I have stepped up and learned shooting in my free time. Alone.

I have now begun to step out by myself, without having to have a buddy accompany me. I have learned to calm the FOMO syndrome and focus only on what seems important to me.